Perfect Touch Custom Weddings - Wichita, Kansas

Just for Couples that have selected our services, we're providing samples of previous ceremonies.  We know that every couple has unique needs and wants when it comes to their wedding vows.  We want YOURS  to be perfectly YOU.  So, we hope that by letting you view other types of ceremonies, you might be inspired, or, perhaps will be able to use these previous services as springboards to help us create just the service you have in mind.  Remember, many of these 'special elements'were customized for just that couple, so, don't hesitate to let us know what your unique needs are.  We really enjoy creating something new and different and aren't afraid to veer away from wedding traditions or immerse ourselves in the most formal traditions available.  Enjoy....

Groom and Bride have chosen to demonstrate their belief in the family they are creating today by the use of the Sand Ceremony. The individual vessels of sand represent each partner - unique and complete on their own merit and one vessel represents ChildsName, the child that is will be nurtured and supported by the loving relationship that Bride and Groom are now creating . The larger vessel represents the ideal that a greater power is made when the individual parts are merged. A new entity is created that takes on its own force and presence. The individual remains but has become part of a greater whole that is now impossible to separate but is also enhanced by those separate qualities that each have brought to the union. Please join your sands now.

WELCOME

We are gathered here today, in the presence of God and this company of loved ones and friend to join together this man and this woman in the holy estate of marriage. They have called us to be witnesses of the pledges they are about to make to each other and to set them forth in their new union, with our blessings and prayers.

PRESENTATION OF BRIDE

Who presents this woman to be wed?

OPENING

Groom, Bride: The rite of marriage in which you now come to be united is the first and oldest rite of mankind. Marriage is our glimpse of Heaven, given in the Wisdom of God to soothe the trouble and increase the joys of our earthly life. This it will do for you if your purpose in your hearts is to beautify and strengthen it by your love and devotion, your mindfulness in little things and your patience and sacrifice of self for each other.

SCRIPTURE READING

Your marriage will know its full intended joy if you will follow the teachings on love found in First Corinthians 13:

Love is patient and kind. Love does not get envious and does not walk in pride. Love does not act like a child. It is not selfish, or easily angered. Love thinks no evil, and it hates that which is wrong, but it is happy when the right is done. Love is able to handle all things. Love is a believer through all things. Love has hope in all things, Love endures, no matter what. Love can not fail.

DIRECTIONS TO COUPLE

And now, Groom and Bride, as you have freely, deliberately and prayerfully chosen each other as partners for life, will you please unite your right hand.

Groom, you are now entering a relationship with many privileges, but also many obligations. The woman you love is about to become your wife. In now way could she better tell you of her love for you than by her willingness to leave home and loved ones and friends, tried and true, to make her home with you. Your joys will be her joys, and your sorrows her sorrows. Your people will be her people and your God her God.

Bride, you too, are entering into a relationship with many privileges, but also many obligations. The man you love is about to become your husband. He tells the world not only of his willingness but of his express desire to turn from all others and to you for all of life ahead. Your love will be his inspiration and your prayers his tower of strength.

Groom, Bride Do you freely accept these privileges and obligations? (Yes, or We Do)

RING BLESSING

May I have the rings? (Prayer to bless rings)

Lord, we ask for your special attention on these material items. Bless them and mark them as symbols of Bride & Grooms love for each other, and of their faith in You and of your pledge to Groom and Bride of Unconditional Love and Acceptance.

RING TEACHING

The ring has long been the symbol for the sealing of important contracts. In the earlier history of man, the king wore a ring upon which was pressed the seal of the kingdom. With this ring, he stamped the treaties of his land. But in more recent generations, the ring has been used to seal the marriage contract. The ring teaches us many lessons. The purity of its metal reminds us of the purity of your love for each other and the circle, having neither beginning nor end, reminds us of the eternity of your love.

EXCHANGING OF VOWS & RINGS

(Groom, will you take this ring, place it upon Bride’s finger & repeat after me: I, Groom ,take you, Bride to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, forsaking all others, till death do us part. (slip ring to finger)

With this ring, I thee wed, [in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost.] [in the name of Jesus Christ]

Groom, it is Bride’s desire that you, too, shall wear a ring, to remind of the purity and eternity of her love for you. As she places it upon your finger, and as you wear it proudly before men, it will proclaim to all the world that you are her husband.

Bride will you take this ring, place it on Groom’s finger, and repeat after me: I, Bride, take you, Groom, to be my wedded husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, forsaking all others,till death do us part. (slip ring to finger)

With this ring, I thee wed, [in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost.] [in the name of Jesus Christ]

UNITY CANDLE CEREMONY

Although you will be sharing one life, never forget, you are two separate people. Cherish and affirm your differences. Love each other. Keep your commitment primary. Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry, share and grow. Grow, sometimes together, sometimes separately. But never remain stagnant. Love and life are always changing, always new. If you will insure a healthy lasting marriage always, always value each other. Although you will disagree, remember to respect each other’s feelings, needs and wants. And above all, never, never lose your sense of humor. Let the Light that you both started tonight guide you always.

De Chardin says, “Love alone is capable of uniting living beings in such a way as to complete and fulfill them, for it alone takes them and joins them by what is deepest in themselves.”

WELCOME

We are gathered here today, in the presence of God and this company of loved ones and friend to join together this man and this woman in the holy estate of marriage. They have called us to be witnesses of the pledges they are about to make to each other and to set them forth in their new union, with our blessings and prayers.

Who presents this Bride to be united with this man?

Groom, Bride: The rite of marriage in which you now come to be united is the first and oldest rite of mankind. Marriage is our glimpse of Heaven, given in the Wisdom of God to soothe the trouble and increase the joys of our earthly life. This it will do for you if your purpose in your hearts is to beautify and strengthen it by your love and devotion, your mindfulness in little things and your patience and sacrifice of self for each other.

SCRIPTURE READING

Your marriage will know its full intended joy if you will follow the teachings on love found in First Corinthians 13:

Love is patient and kind. Love does not get envious and does not walk in pride. Love does not act like a child. It is not selfish, or easily angered. Love thinks no evil, and it hates that which is wrong, but it is happy when the right is done. Love is able to handle all things. Love is a believer through all things. Love has hope in all things, Love endures, no matter what. Love can not fail.

Bride, Groom You have come here today from your varied life experiences to make public the commitment you have made, each to the other. You come to combine your two separate lives into one. Although you will be sharing one life, never forget, you are two separate people. Cherish and affirm your differences. Love each other. Keep your commitment primary. Together you will laugh and cry, be sick and well, be happy and angry, share and grow. Grow, sometimes together, sometimes separately. But never remain stagnant. Love and life are always changing, always new. If you will insure a healthy lasting marriage always, always value each other. Although you will disagree, remember to respect each other’s feelings, needs and wants. And above all, never, never lose your sense of humor

I call you to enter into your marriage commitment now by the exchanging of vows and the receiving of the wedding rings.

Groom, Please repeat after me:

I, Groom, take you, Bride, to be my wedded wife. I promise to love, honor and cherish you, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others until death do us part.

Bride, repeat after me:

I, Bride, take you, Groom, to be my wedded husband. I promise to love, honor and cherish you, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, forsaking all others until death do us part.

The wedding ring functions as a symbol that one is joined in love with another and represents the sealing of a vow. Its strength represents the permanence of the union and the protection you will each find within the circle of your commitment. Its shape, with neither beginning nor end, represents the timelessness of your relationship and the promise of forever as the duration of your love. May the rings themselves and all they represent be blessed by the Creator.

Groom, will you take this ring, place it upon Bride’s finger & repeat after me: With this ring, I thee wed,

Bride will you take this ring, place it on Groom’s finger, and repeat after me: With this ring, I thee wed.

Let us pray

Creator God, bless this marriage and this family. Give them a long life together with many joys and very few hardships. Grant them, in your Divine Will, the right things at the right times. Let Your Light shine brightly for them all. Amen.

Having formed a new family, you have chosen to demonstrate both your release of the past and belief in the beauty of your future with a Sunflower Ceremony. (Couple walks to edge of dock picks up flower and together release it while minister reads)

Please take this bloom, ripe with seed to represent the growth, both new and old, that springs from the past, while the flower is still prime in its beauty to represent the joy of both the present and the future and offer that sunflower, in prayerful appreciation, to the water at your feet to symbolize the ever present movement of time and your hope that all things to come your way be blessed.

(Couple returns)

And now Groom, Bride , having pledged your love and loyalty to each other, and having sealed the pledge with the marriage rings, I do by the authority vested in me as a minister in the church of the Living God and in the Brotherhood of Universal Life Church and in conformity with the laws of the state of Kansas, pronounce you husband and wife. What God has joined together let no man put asunder.

You may now kiss the Bride.

INTRODUCTION

It is now my great pleasure to present for the first time

Mr & Mrs Groom LastName

Welcome one and all, friends and family, all those seen and unseen, known and unknown who come in love to the celebration of Bride & Groom’s marriage. This particular type of marriage ceremony is known as a handfasting, a ritual with very ancient traditions that is significant to our bride and groom.

We begin by first gathering and requesting the presence of the Creator from all Sacred Directions:

From the North, the aspect of Fire and Knowledge. We humbly and respectfully summon the Element of Fire and all that serve him. ( I will light a candle and walk in a circle around you to the next direction)

From the West, the aspect of Water & Spirituality. We humbly and respectfully summon the Element of Water and all that serve her (A Glass of water will wait here for you, I will pick it up and hand to the two of you to drink from)

From the South, the aspect of Earth and Physical Matter. We humbly and respectfully summon the Element of Earth and all that serve him. (I will have a dish of salt waiting here and sprinkle it on you)

From the East, the aspect of Air and Creativity. We humbly and respectuflly summon the Element of Air and all that serve her. (I will light a smudge stick or incense and ‘smudge’ you with it)

And as all the creatures and elements of this planet are bound by both the Father and the Mother, we seek their presence here. By the light reflected in this crystal we see the Father and Welcome Him. By the beauty of the crystal formed in the womb of Earth we see the Mother and welcome her. ( I will have a crystal at the center of the circle, you will have stopped in front of it, I will pick it up here and touch you both with it, then set it on the ground when I’m finished)

We offer joy and gratitude in return for the blessed presence of all summoned here and we gratefully let it be.

A marriage is a commitment based in Love, in Affection and in an intuitive bonding of two lives. Each human life is in itself a unique expression of the Creator with its private purpose and fulfillment. With the union of marriage we choose our life partner to bind and bond to ourselves in order to continue our life journey in unison with one another. Supporting, forgiving and healing one another and knowing that you have both received and given perfect love. Know that when you love each other perfectly, you will have grown to love all of life perfectly.

Who comes before us today?

Bride: I, Full Name, Do

Who comes before us today ?

Groom: I, Full Name, Do

Why do you come before us?

I wish to become one with Groom

Why do you come before us?

I wish to become one with Bride

What do you offer to her as token?

Perfect Love and Perfect Trust

What do you offer to him as token?

Perfect Love and Perfect Trust

All who bring such are doubly welcome

Who stands with this man to symbolize the traditions and family from which he comes (family or attendant answers)

Who stands with this woman to symbolize the traditions and family from which she comes (family or attendant answers)

May I have the rings?

Bless this rings, Father, Mother and All Elements. Let them stand as token for the pledges and vows made this day. Let their circle, with neither beginning nor end, represent the timelessness of their union. Let their strength and purity of their substance represent the depth and quality of this couple’s love for one another.

Groom, place Bride’s ring upon her finger and repeat after me:

I take you to my hand at the rising of the moon, the setting of the stars, the dawning of the sun to love and honor through all that may come, through all of our life together.

Bride, place Groom’s ring upon his finger and repeat after me:

I take you to my hand at the rising of the moon, the setting of the stars, the dawning of the sun to love and honor through all that may come, through all of our life together.

Bride & Groom, are you now willing and do you now chose to become bound, one to the other, with all the duties, obligations and privileges inherent in the creation of a marriage? Are your now willing to commit to love honor and cherish each other faithfully and forever through all of life ahead be there joy or sorrow, tragedy or triumph? (Yes, or We Do)

I bid you join hands and look into each other’s eyes.”

Individually: [Name], will you cause him/her pain? I may. Is that your intent? No.

Both: Will you share each other’s pain and seek to ease it? Yes.

And so the binding is made. *First cord*

Individually: [Name], will you share in his/her laughter? Yes

Both: Will both of you look for the brightness in life and the positive in each other? Yes.

And so the binding is made. *Second cord*

Individually: [Name], will you burden him/her? I may. Is that your intent? No.

Both: Will you share the burdens of each so that your spirits may grow in this union? Yes.

And so the binding is made. *Third cord*

Individually: [Name], will you share his/her dreams? Yes.

Both: Will you dream together to create new realities and hopes? Yes.

And so the binding is made. *Fourth cord*

Individually: [Name], will you cause him/her anger? I may. Is that your intent? No.

Both: Will you take the heat of anger and use it to temper the strength of this union? We will.

And so the binding is made. *Fifth cord*

Individually: [Name], will you honor him/her? Yes.

Both: Will you seek to never give cause to break that honor? We shall never do so.

And so the binding is made. *Sixth cord*

*Cords are tied together: “The knots of this binding are not formed by these cords, but instead by your vows. Either of you may drop the cords, for always, you hold in your own hands the making or breaking of this union.”

Bride, Groom, hear these words and seal them in your heart as they represent all the pledges and promises you have just made:

You cannot possess me for I belong to myself But while we both wish it, I give you that which is mine to give
You cannot command me, for I am a free person But I shall serve you in those ways you require
and the honeycomb will taste sweeter coming from my hand"
I pledge to you that yours will be the name I cry aloud in the night and the eyes into which I smile in the morning
I pledge to you the first bite of my meat and the first drink from my cup

I pledge to you my living and my dying, each equally in your care
I shall be a shield for your back and you for mine
I shall not slander you, nor you me
I shall honor you above all others, and when we quarrel we shall do so in
private and tell no strangers our grievances"
This is my wedding vow to you
This is the marriage of equals."

A blessing for your union:

Above you are stars, below you are stones. As time does pass remember, like a star should your love be constant. Like a stone should your love be firm. Be close, yet not too close. Possess on another, yet be understanding. Have patience each with the other for storms will come but they will quickly go. Be free in giving of affection and warmth. Make love often and be sensous to one another. Have no fear and let not the ways of the unenlightened give you unease, for the powers of Love and of Life are with you now and always.

Bride, Groom

You have both consented to be bound in the covenant of marriage through the ritual of handfasting. You have exchanged vows and rings to mark your pledges to each other. I declare, by all authorities vested in me, that your are now wed. As it is above, so let it be below. You may now celebrate your marriage with a kiss.

(After kiss)

We gratefully release all aspects of Creator gathered here tonight and declare that the circle is again opened. May the Sun, the Moon, the stars and those loved ones standing here in witness attest to the joining of these two hearts into one for all time. We declare it is Done. Blessed Be.

Friends and Family, All those seen and unseen, it is my great joy to present for the first time

Mr & Mrs. ____________________________